A Night Out With Family

Tonight the whole family went to dinner, which is a rare treat for a Wednesday night.  We met up with my mother in law and my brother and sister in law at a local restaurant (one we’ve been to before).   Almost immediately I noticed Taylor acting strangely.

Taylor is usually pretty well behaved in public, be it in a store or eating out in a restaurant.  We’ve had our difficult times, but it’s been quite a while since she’s acted out in public.

Until tonight.

From the moment we sat down she was different than usual.  She was really giggly at first.  Then, she started tossing napkins, menus and crayons on the floor.  Next,  it was grabbing at the waitress, and then getting up and trying to sit with another party of people.

When our salads and appetizers came, she got agitated.  I assumed she was just hungry and tried to give her food, but she refused it.  She was being loud and was going from person to person to sit with them (which I don’t mind her doing, but she wouldn’t stay with anyone for more than a few minutes.)

Doug went to our van to get a doll for her and she played with it for about 2 minutes and then didn’t want anything to do with it.

When our food arrived, she proceeded to cram her food into her mouth, which is something she normally does (we are working on it) but it was much worse than normal.  A couple of times I thought she was going to make herself vomit! **

By the end of the meal she had pretty much calmed down and things slowly got more normal.  I kept saying “Usually she isn’t like this when we go out, really!”  I felt horrible.

More than likely, nobody around us cared what was going on at our table.  But I’m sure we had lookers.

They probably thought that she was a bad kid and that we had no control over her.

Sometimes it feels like we have no control over her.

She gets agitated or aggravated and more often than not we have no idea why.  We do what we can to “fix” the problem and a lot of the time we make it worse.

It’s not fun, that’s for sure.

Once we left, she was back to her regular self.  Doug and I think that the change in routine (eating out mid week) and the environment (loud, and crowded) most likely led to her behavior.    That being said, we still don’t know what to do if when this happens again.

Because it will happen again.  It may not be for a while, but I am sure that we’ll have to deal with it again.  It’s our life and life happens.


**It may not seem like she was “all that bad” (and it really wasn’t that she was “bad”…just difficult) from what I wrote, but that was a summary…there was a lot more…and a lot of the same antics,  just seemed redundant to mention it all.


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